The deeper background of restlessness.
Restlessness is a mental and emotional state where you experience dissatisfaction and indecisiveness. This condition is created by a conflict between two extremely divided camps within yourself.
1. On the one hand, there is the part of you that yearns for peace, rest and relaxation. This part of your personality is sensitive, vulnerable, perhaps also tired and thinks it has accomplished enough. It asks for a reward, and for the recognition of tiredness and overstimulation.
2. On the other side of the battlefield of unrest is the part of you that has learned that it is never good enough. This subpersonality screams that nothing is ever finished, that there is always work to be done, and this part also makes sure that a to-do list is constantly running through your head.
The never ending loop of restlessness
Together these two entities form an incessant maelstrom of negative thoughts, in which you can get stuck for a long time. Situations of inner conflict arise:
You want to relax, but you can’t. You also want to do something useful, but you can’t concentrate. You want to relax and read a book, but your mind won’t calm down. You want to enjoy a healthy meal, but you can’t muster the energy to cook. You want to stare out the window peacefully with a mug of herbal tea, but it’s as if you don’t allow yourself that moment of rest. You want to do something fun, but at the same time you don’t feel like it.
This is a lemniscate, an endless loop of inability and aimlessness. It is difficult to get out of it. Being strict with yourself and having a lot of self-discipline sometimes works, but the disadvantage is that it takes so much energy and can pull you out of your healthy balance, that after a recovery you quickly end up in an overtired and overstimulated state again.
It is better to see that you are where you are: you have given much, and there is still much to do. You have done much, and you have more to do. Accept that you are never done with working, with learning, with growing, with helping, with tidying up, with living. Everything flows, nothing is finished, nothing is perfect. Everything is always in motion. And that is precisely why you may rest.
Restlessness and perfectionism go hand in hand.
Once you accept that you deserve rest, a part of you will rebel against it. The restlessness and the accompanying nagging restless feeling have everything to do with perfectionism: you want to do everything way too well.
The little voice inside you that always nags you that you always have something to do and your inner sense of being overtired and burned out, those two will always argue as long as you do not intervene from your higher, spiritual wisdom. Intervene!
You silence both voices by letting go.
Let things be.
You don't have to do anything now.
You don't have to spend your free time usefully either. Nonsense!
True relaxation has no rules or higher purpose.
You do nothing for the sake of doing nothing. You don't have to get anything done at times when you're supposed to rest and recharge.
Everything is allowed in relaxation, as long as you let go of the result. Because you have probably been busy with the result all day, full of effort, just like everyone else around you. So let go of that result, the must, for a moment and experience what it is like to do something without a goal, without compulsion, just to be busy and give your energy some space.
The energy of Dumortierite helps to let go of expectations and attachment to results, so that you can surrender to well-deserved rest.
This beautiful dark blue bracelet calms the inner conflict that arises when you are tired but also feel that there is still enough to do. Dumortierite connects those yin and yang qualities in yourself, so that unity is created in your mental energy: a calm peace of mind in which you can relax without feeling guilty.
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